Tom has a son named Chris who is on the autism spectrum (Asperger's syndrome) and in their journey, inclusion has been a buzzword that often leads to dead ends and frustration.
Inclusion depends on hospitality and welcome, which can be half-hearted. What we need instead are intentional practices of care and remembering each other. To listen with the ears of God and to be a caring community.
Care can often reduced to 'exchanges', but it needs to be an action aimed at the well-being of another. Care is not just feelings, it is both a practice and a moral perspective.
Lastly, a warning to be careful about using the word "deserve" it can be rife with problems.
You can also read more from Tom in his book, Vulnerable Communion: A Theology of Disability and Hospitality.
More discussion is available at the Institute on Theology and Disability Community site.